Mars and Venus Together
Sometime before Mr. Awesome and I began our courtship, I read a clever book by John Gray called Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. This book was such a blessing to me as it put so many things into perspective as far as the misunderstood differences between men and women. The fact of the matter is men and women are wired differently and when I came upon that concept, it relieved me of a lot of frustrations that I had with trying to understand why males did things in a way that I thought was dumb. Although, I will never understand the full perspective of men, I can appreciate it more and I know that it is a part of God's design that makes men and women complimentary to each other. This book also addresses the intricate details of the wiring of women and it helped me to understand myself better. Ladies, if we are honest, we don't always understand the many aspects of our emotional being so I can only imagine why men get lost in the shuffle of some of our whacky ways.
As I revisit the content of the book, it makes me laugh as I witness the inherent differences between Mr. Awesome and I. For example, I know that it can be hard to believe, but I can be a bit of a chatter box and when I am stressed or something is bothering me, the natural thing for me to do is to TALK about it. Most of the times after I talk about it, I feel alot better. However, there are times when I need a solution to the issue at hand and in a lot of cases Mr. Awesome will ask if I need for him to just lend an ear or to offer a solution. I am glad that he has that concept down, as foreign as that may be to him. In contrast, he does not sit down and have a 1,000 word conversation about an issue while pouring out feelings. He discusses it, gets to the point, and moves on to the next topic. I usually need to sit there a little while longer just to say a few more words so that I can meet my 1,000 word quota. Another example is that I find it amazing that Mr. Awesome does not need (or care to have) nearly as many details about things as I do. He has left the house decorating totally up to me, and although I am not complaining about that, I do see him getting flustered when I begin to share intricate details such as the color curtains I would like to put up. He says to leave the details out and to just let him know when to put the curtain rod up. That is one of the differences as he is goal oriented and I am into the details that are needed along the way to the goal. Although the differences can make understanding each other a challenge at times, it is those differences that work together for a greater purpose. In the bible it lays out men and women's primary needs when it commands husbands to love their wives and for wives to respect their husbands. God did design us to be different, but to fit together for his purpose. I am thankful that Mr. Awesome is my great fit :-).