About Feminism

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised - Proverbs 31:30

 

   "I'm a grown woman. I can do whatever I want."  This is a chorus verse from a song of one of the most famous feminists entertainers that is out today.  Whenever I think about the influence that this entertainer has on many women in this society, it is heartbreaking to know that so many idolize her.  At first thought, the lyrics may sound fun and cute, but these lyrics do not match up with the more personal side of her life.  This entertainer has a husband.  This entertainer has been seen in nurturing positions with her offspring.  Yet, this entertainer is swaying thousands of women to adopt this attitude of "I can do whatever I want to" and "girls rule the world".  This leaves many women confused as they take on a type of persona that does not bring true contentment.  It leaves me to wonder if this artist says these words to her long-time husband at home.  I wonder if she is at home teaching her daughter to hold this type of undisciplined attitude.  I believe that I can safely conclude that her lyrics do not display what really happens in her home.

     In my late teens and my early twenties, I adopted that type of attitude of being "grown" and being able to "do what I want to do".  I was all about "girl power" and I was trying to rule my "piece of the world". After I held this believe for a few years, I was left feeling confused and depleted and wondering why was I in a state of discontentment. This is when the Lord began working on my heart and I learned that true contentment comes from my God-given assignment and roles, not the role that society had pushed upon me.  After submitting myself to God's definition of my role as a woman, I began to breathe easier. I was able to relax in the fact that by accepting and embracing God's gift of my feminine nature, I was no longer fighting to be a true woman.  No longer did I have to feel the need to fuse my womanly nature with accents of the masculine attributes that society says that women need to carry.  In fact, now that I am married, I feel relieved to be able to embrace true femininity as I'm under my husband's physical protection.  I feel comfortable being under his priestly provision.  I feel relieved to be under his umbrella as the provider of this family.  As my husband does many things for our family, I am glad to be able to embrace my womanly roles in our family.  I am glad to be able to be a the soft feminine being that God has called me to be and not that confused masculine version that the world wants us to be. 

Special Gestures

 

 

          The first official thing that Mr. Awesome did to let me know that he was ready to take our friendship to the next level was to send flowers to my job.  I remember seeing the flowers for Valentine's Day and I became speechless. He made the nicest gesture of getting my favorite flowers {Tulips} sent to me.  It was the beginning of something special.  As time has gone on and we have just celebrated our third year of marriage, it would be easy to believe that there is no need to do these types of gestures anymore.  But as the saying goes, " you need to keep doing what you did to attract the love of your life even after you get them".  If I had to remind Mr. Awesome of that, this blog post would be different, but it isn't.  Over the course of our relationship, he has kept the flowers coming.  He still opens the door for me.  He still does all of those things that I found attractive in him in the beginning.  In fact, the other day he sent the Tulips in the picture to my job.  I was given many compliments and was asked many questions. "Is it your birthday?"  No, my birthday is in October.     " Are you mad at him?" No.  "Is everything OK?" Yes, these flowers are something that my hubby does on a regular basis. I thought that the questions were funny, but I couldn't help but to feel proud that my husband still goes through the process of showing me how much he loves me.  Although these gestures are not special for everyone, Mr. Awesome knows that they are special to me.  In no way do I take this for granted.  I am highly thankful for my husband and all of the ways that he shows his love for me.  More than that, I thank God for choosing to place us together as he did.