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Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised - Proverbs 31:30

   "I'm a grown woman. I can do whatever I want."  This is a chorus verse from a song of one of the most famous feminists entertainers that is out today.  Whenever I think about the influence that this entertainer has on many women in this society, it is heartbreaking to know that so many idolize her.  At first thought, the lyrics may sound fun and cute, but these lyrics do not match up with the more personal side of her life.  This entertainer has a husband.  This entertainer has been seen in nurturing positions with her offspring.  Yet, this entertainer is swaying thousands of women to adopt this attitude of "I can do whatever I want to" and "girls rule the world".  This leaves many women confused as they take on a type of persona that does not bring true contentment.  It leaves me to wonder if this artist says these words to her long-time husband at home.  I wonder if she is at home teaching her daughter to hold this type of undisciplined attitude.  I believe that I can safely conclude that her lyrics do not display what really happens in her home.

     In my late teens and my early twenties, I adopted that type of attitude of being "grown" and being able to "do what I want to do".  I was all about "girl power" and I was trying to rule my "piece of the world". After I held this believe for a few years, I was left feeling confused and depleted and wondering why was I in a state of discontentment. This is when the Lord began working on my heart and I learned that true contentment comes from my God-given assignment and roles, not the role that society had pushed upon me.  After submitting myself to God's definition of my role as a woman, I began to breathe easier. I was able to relax in the fact that by accepting and embracing God's gift of my feminine nature, I was no longer fighting to be a true woman.  No longer did I have to feel the need to fuse my womanly nature with accents of the masculine attributes that society says that women need to carry.  In fact, now that I am married, I feel relieved to be able to embrace true femininity as I'm under my husband's physical protection.  I feel comfortable being under his priestly provision.  I feel relieved to be under his umbrella as the provider of this family.  As my husband does many things for our family, I am glad to be able to embrace my womanly roles in our family.  I am glad to be able to be a the soft feminine being that God has called me to be and not that confused masculine version that the world wants us to be. 


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