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The Great Balancing Act

        As a singleton, I learned the hard way that you have to learn how to balance things in life.  At times, I would overbook and over commit myself to obligations that would leave me feeling exhausted after attempting to do it all.  I learned that sometimes you just have to say No so that you can devote the proper time and attention to more important things in life. Before I got married, I had come to some sort of balance with my time and attention and was comfortable with it.  However, after Mr. Awesome and I jumped the broom, I found myself needing to relearn the balancing game all over again.
         Going from being a singleton to being a wife was a blissful transition.  I was super excited to go from living for one to living for more than one.  However, I did not anticipate the tough road that it would be to transition from living for one to living for two and three instantly.  I easily figured that adjusting to a spouse and child at the same time would be a piece of cake.  Let me tell you that was a big piece of cake.  I suddenly found myself not only trying to be the Proverbs 31 woman who was a wife of noble character, but also the Proverbs 31 woman who was trying to navigate the tricky road of being a non-traditional mother.  Since I felt fairly comfortable with taking on the role of being a wife, I begin to make the mistake of putting much more energy into proving my adequacy of being an instant mother.  I learned quickly that my attempt to perform this type of balancing act was terribly unbalanced and I got a serious wake up call.  Initially, I was putting more energy into keeping up with a schedule that (in my opinion) was too busy for a 13 year old than I was into pouring into my primary ministry outside of God, my marriage.  On top of my personal quests such as my career, personal endeavors, and being a homemaker, I felt like a fast spinning wheel that had come off its axle.  I began to look at other wives and mothers who "appeared" to have everything under control and wonder why was I always so tired and in need of a nap.
      It was during my wake up call that I decided to put things back into the rightful order that they belonged, putting my marriage first after God while everything else followed.  Although things ran more smoothly this way, I wish that I could say I have mastered the new balancing act in my life.  It is something that I continuously pray about, especially now that a new dimension to our family dynamics has further challenged the balance that I was already trying to solidify.  So here I am relearning this new balancing act.  With more prayer, I know that I will get it.


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Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogantor rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
-I Corinthians 4-7

     On a recent trip to the city of brotherly love (Philadelphia) to visit with family that I haven't seen in a long time and to get some authentic Cheesesteak sandwiches, we stopped to take a pic with this all too famous sign.  As we braved the type of cold that Philly is also famous for (at least in my book), we were able to get some other nice tourists to capture this moment for us.  Although the original designer of this sculpture, Robert Indiana, did such an artistic notion by making this display, we have to give all honor and credit to HE who constructed the concept of LOVE in the first place.

    Many times we think of love as that "tingle-in-my-spine-and-butter…